FORT BRAGG, N.C. - No one starts a relationship thinking they will become a victim of domestic violence, but it happens with alarming frequency. The FBI reports domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women, ages 15 to 44 in the United States. That's more than car accidents, muggings and rapes combined. Domestic violence does not discriminate against gender, race, age or socio-economic status.

Victims of domestic violence need information about how to stay safe, how to keep their children free from violence, and available options and resources. Each of us has a role to play in our community to provide support and assistance to victims. She (or he) may need our help to restore a life free from fear in the one place where everyone should feel safe and secure at home.

Although domestic violence usually occurs within the home, it carries over into the workplace in many ways. Studies have found that domestic violence victims experience impaired work performance and require more time off than employees who are not abused.

Victims of domestic violence experience a broad range of emotional consequences, including depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, all of which can adversely affect productivity. In addition, 75 percent of domestic violence victims face harassment from intimate partners while at work.

When considering the medical costs and diminished productivity levels incurred as a result of domestic violence, it is estimated the cost to employers is between $3 to 5 billion every year.

One in three Americans has witnessed domestic violence - a verbal or physical assault. If we are to solve this national tragedy, we must start by choosing to see the abuse and get involved. We must make it our business to offer assistance if a friend, co-worker, or relative is trapped in an abusive relationship and doesn't know how to get help.

The National Family Violence Prevention Fund has this advice for assisting victims of domestic violence:

Help a victim prepare a safety plan.

Ask direct questions, gently. Don't rush into providing solutions. Listen without judging.

Explain that physical violence and other forms of abuse in a relationship are never acceptable, at any time.

Explain that domestic violence is a crime, and there is a way to seek protection through shelters and the justice system. Provide information about resources.

If the victim remains in the relationship, continue to be a friend while at the same time firmly communicating no one deserves to be in an abusive situation.

Please remember that confidential information and assistance is available by calling the Fort Bragg Victim Advocate Hotline, 322-3418. Victim advocates are on call 24 hours per day, 7 days a week.

If you would like more information about domestic violence, how to help a friend or Family member identify and escape an abusive relationship, the availability of community resources or have other related questions or concerns, Fort Bragg Family Advocacy can be reached at 396-5521.

"If you are in an abusive relationship, the best idea is to call this confidential 24-hour hotline, said Tom Hill of the Fort Bragg Family Advocacy Program. "We often have victims complain that they sought help from the unit and were disappointed. Most unit leadership mean to do the right thing but are not experts at handling the often complicated issues involved with these situations. If you want an expert, someone who will answer your questions, on an anonymous basis if you wish, call a victim advocate at our 322-3418 hotline."

Other sources of information regarding domestic violence include: the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence at www.ncadv.org, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.ndvh.org or 1-800-799-SAFE (7233); the Family Violence Prevention Fund at www.endabuse.org; and Military One Source at www.militaryonesource.com or 1-800-342-9647.

(Editor's note: Information for this article was obtained from the National Family Violence Prevention Fund and Partnership for Prevention at www.prevent.org.)