Army Stands Strong Against Domestic Violence: Breaking the Silence, Offering Support

October, recognized as Domestic Violence Awareness Month, serves as an important reminder for the Army community to unite in breaking the silence surrounding domestic abuse. Facilitating these critically needed conversations puts us one step closer to ending domestic abuse in the Army. Tanya Juarez, Office of the Deputy Chief of Staff for the Army, G-9, Family Advocacy Program manager, explained, “DVAM calls for raising awareness, educating on prevention and supporting those affected by abuse. Through an effective, coordinated community response, we will continue to foster a culture of safety, respect and trust.”

It’s a common misconception that victims or abusers fit a specific profile. Many victims go unnoticed, and abusers often hide in plain sight because domestic violence transcends ability, race, gender, age and socioeconomic status. As Janique Parnell, DCS, G-9, FAP specialist, noted: “A person experiencing violence or engaging in violence against an intimate partner (may not) ‘look’ like a victim or alleged abuser. It is not always obvious who is impacted by domestic abuse. There may not be visible injuries, and to the outside world, the person impacted may be highly functioning and resourceful.” The absence of noticeable injuries and the ability to maintain a high-functioning facade can mask the reality of domestic abuse.

According to the RAND Corporation's 2023 research report “Domestic Abuse in the Armed Forces,” DOD clarifies that domestic abuse is not limited to married couples, physical violence or verbal disagreements between couples. An abuser could be a current or former spouse or intimate partner, a co-parent or a domestic partner. It’s also important to recognize that domestic abuse extends beyond physical violence, encompassing psychological, emotional, sexual and financial forms of control and manipulation. “Domestic abuse also incurs tactics such as stalking, isolation from families and friends and threatening custody of children, pets and technology to manipulate their victims,” explained Dr. Carmen Leggett, DCS, G-9, FAP specialist. Recognizing these signs is crucial in mobilizing the community to act against domestic abuse.

The Army stands firm in its commitment to the safety and well-being of all service members and their Families affected by domestic violence and assists with a coordinated community response. It offers a comprehensive support network that ensures victims have access to the support they need. Leggett reinforced: “Support for victims of domestic abuse is provided by the Family Advocacy Program, law enforcement, Judge Advocate General, local agencies and a host of other helping activities involved in the prevention and intervention of domestic abuse. Safe shelters, Special Trial Counsel and Transitional Compensation are a few of the services offered to assist victims of domestic abuse in their journey.”

Notably, the Army’s Domestic Abuse Victim Advocacy program provides nonjudgmental guidance, safety planning and information on available resources. Its role extends to helping victims rebuild their lives, from finding vital documents to securing child care services. The program’s victim advocates offer 24/7 support, explaining reporting options, filing reports, assisting with protective orders, providing financial support and benefits information, coordinating emergency services and offering referrals to resources both on and off Army installations. Also covered under the DAVA program, the Transitional Compensation program offers temporary support, services and benefits to Family members who have experienced spousal or child abuse. The program aims to equip and empower survivors as they transition to safe environments free from abuse. There are two types of TC applications: traditional and exceptional eligibility. An application is considered traditional when the dependent-abuse offense is specifically cited as a reason for the Soldier’s separation. Exceptional eligibility applications request approval from the Secretary of the Army when the Soldier separates for reasons other than dependent abuse but there is documented evidence that dependent abuse occurred.

“The process is different for traditional and exceptional eligibility and can vary from case to case. It is best to reach out to your DAVA to begin the application process and ensure the correct documentation is submitted for approval,” explained Leanne Lemons, DCS, G-9, FAP specialist.

In short, the intricate support network available to victims of domestic violence prioritizes their well-being and access to resources. “Communication and collaboration between these partners is essential to providing victim care and safety and abuser accountability,” said Lemons.

Encouraging open conversations

Domestic violence often thrives in silence, but it should not be viewed as a private or Family matter. The goal of speaking openly about this issue will hopefully educate the community about the signs of abuse and available resources while encouraging victims to seek help. Witnessing a friend or Family member experience abuse can be difficult, scary and upsetting. There are many nuances to navigate, such as power and control, and even the danger associated with leaving the abusive relationship. Knowing how to talk to someone experiencing domestic violence can help empower them to make tough decisions. Support your loved one by listening without judgment, and offer to connect them to support services and safety.

If you’re concerned about a friend’s harmful behavior, hold them accountable. You can even use bystander intervention tactics to diffuse a situation if you’re in the room during a concerning exchange.

Addressing your own harmful behavior to a partner or spouse is another critical piece of the conversation. Personal accountability can help you identify warning signs and seek help. Consider speaking with a nonmedical counselor for support. The Army’s domestic violence prevention efforts focus on early intervention, support and long-term safety. FAP works to prevent domestic abuse from happening by educating Soldiers and their Families about healthy relationships, effective communication and stress management. In the event of a domestic violence incident, immediate support is provided, including counseling, advocacy and various services. According to Cindy Morita, DCS, G-9, FAP specialist: “The Army also works to prevent domestic violence from recurring. Ongoing counseling, monitoring and access to resources help ensure the safety and well-being of Families. Through these efforts, and by involving bystanders in prevention and support, the Army aims to protect and strengthen military Families.”

Trusting and supporting victims and holding offenders accountable can create real change and put a stop to domestic violence. This means reporting domestic violence is paramount. “Domestic abuse is not only devastating to the Family, but it also affects mission readiness. Reporting domestic violence begins the process toward healing,” explained Leggett. Everyone is encouraged to report suspected abuse, and certain individuals, such as command teams and “covered professionals,” must do so.

How you can help

While Domestic Violence Awareness Month serves as a focal point, the Army’s dedication to preventing domestic violence extends throughout the year. Support the Army’s commitment against abuse by participating in discussions about domestic violence. Lean into educational resources such as webinars, articles and brochures. If you’re discussing domestic violence and someone tells you they’re a victim, listen and communicate that the abuse they’re experiencing is not their fault. Take them seriously and refer them to FAP. Encourage those seeking assistance to reach out to a DAVA, who can help navigate the differences in reporting options. In cases of suspected child abuse or neglect, make a report to the nearest child welfare agency.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, reach out to your installation FAP. Remember, you are not alone. The Army stands ready to provide the support and resources needed to break the cycle of abuse and to create a safe and supportive environment for all. Find your nearest FAP office, and connect with a DAVA by calling 800-342-9647 or by using the DAVA Locator.