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Next chapter: Remembering a Soldier killed by domestic violence

By Marie PihulicOctober 27, 2023

Remembering Angel
Gail Conner stands next to a photo of her daughter, Spc. Angel Conner, during a photo dedication ceremony in the Hall of Remembrance Oct. 18, 2023. Spc. Conner was a victim of domestic violence and passed away Jan. 18, 2020. (Photo Credit: Marie Pihulic) VIEW ORIGINAL

The Hall of Remembrance was filled with laughter and light Oct. 18. Two things you would not expect in a somber ceremony for someone who was killed by domestic violence.

Spc. Angel Conner, a Fort Sill Soldier, was shot and killed Jan. 18, 2020 by her boyfriend, Richard Smith. Smith was convicted of first-degree murder in February 2022 and sentenced to life in prison. Conner’s loved ones chose to come back to Fort Sill to help others and to remember her life.

Survivor Outreach Services held a dedication ceremony to add Conner’s photo in the Hall of Remembrance.

Hall of Remembrance
Keith Powers and Gail Conner place Spc. Angel Conner's photo on the wall in the Hall of Remembrance Oct. 18, 2023. (Photo Credit: Marie Pihulic) VIEW ORIGINAL

“This is a great day because we get to honor Angel. And I just want you to know, she will never be forgotten,” said Keith Powers, Survivor Outreach Services coordinator.

Conner’s mother, Gail, shared stories from Angel’s youth leading up to her time in service.

Life of Angel
1 / 2 Show Caption + Hide Caption – Gail Conners shares stories of Spc. Angel Conner as a child to the loved ones and guests of the photo dedication ceremony in the Hall of Remembrance. Gail said her daughter was a shy child who grew more confident as she got older and took her job in the Army seriously. (Photo Credit: Marie Pihulic) VIEW ORIGINAL
Always remembered
2 / 2 Show Caption + Hide Caption – Keith Powers, Survivor Outreach Services, gives Gail Conner a quick hug when she starts to cry during a photo dedication ceremony for her daughter, Spc. Angel Conner. Spc. Conner was a victim of domestic violence and passed away Jan. 18, 2020. (Photo Credit: Marie Pihulic) VIEW ORIGINAL

“She was so outgoing, so outspoken and always had a smile on her face. She ended up going back into the military and that was the best thing she could have done,” said Gail Conner.

Before the dedication ceremony, Conner’s best friend, Shalicia Torbert, spoke to Soldiers in 428th Field Artillery Brigade as part of domestic violence prevention training.

“There were signs, but you just never think it will hit home,” said Torbert.

When referring to the night Conner was killed, she said, “Something was different that night. I saw it, but I didn’t see it.”

Torbert said to not only look for physical signs of abuse, but other clues leading up to it such as isolation and changes in behavior.

“Most people think domestic violence is physical. It’s not just physical. It can be emotional, psychological, financial, and sexual. And all those ways can be gateways to something as tragic to what happened to Angel,” said Torbert.
Best friends forever
Shalicia Torbert shares the connection she had with best friend, Spc. Angel Conner, during Conner's photo dedication ceremony in the Hall of Remembrance Oct. 18, 2023. Torbert said they became best friends when Conner came to her birthday party and their bond never faltered through all the years. (Photo Credit: Marie Pihulic) VIEW ORIGINAL

Torbert also wrote a book, "Lessons from an Angel" in Conner's memory. She said the book started as a way to journal her memories but was suggested as a way to help others have a great friendship like theirs. Torbert said she wanted the book as a way for Conner's son to remember his mother and the kind of friend she was.

Domestic Violence Help: If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, you can speak to a Domestic Abuse Victim Advocate (DAVA) on their 24/7 hotline: (580) 574-0871.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233.

For emergencies, dial 911.