The cyber world may often appear to be an unsafe, endless void, posing countless dangers to users, from phishing attacks and romance scams to identity theft. In this digital age, parents, especially those in the military, should be proactive in protecting their children from silent threats. Frequent relocations and deployments (along with the push for autonomy that youths commonly seek) may heighten military children’s exposure to online threats, including cyberbullying. “The impact from the frequent moves, stress from leaving friends behind or meeting new friends, adjusting to new schools (and) new routines, cannot only wreak havoc on the child, this can also be stressful on the Family as well,” explained Dr. Carmen Leggett, DCS, G-9, Family Advocacy Program Specialist.
As a result, parents may miss crucial signs indicating their child has experienced cyberbullying, which not only affects the child but can be damaging to the Army Family. “Addressing cyberbullying through communication, parental and community engagement, education and digital awareness is vital to fostering a community that is resilient, supportive and prepared to promote healthy online interactions and protect the well-being of their children,” Leggett said.
Cyberbullying, often synonymous with cyberstalking, is not an uncommon occurrence. In fact, almost half of U.S. teens ages 13 to 17 report experiencing it. According to the National Crime Prevention Council, cyberbullying involves the use of electronic communication to harass, intimidate or threaten someone. Cyberbullies can be classmates, or complete strangers, but often know their targets.
“Cyberbullying is prevalent among peer offenders largely due to the prolific use of technology and social media platforms by children and youth,” explained Special Agent Jada Masawi of the Family and Sexual Violence Division, Army Criminal Investigation Division.
However, cyberbullying shouldn’t be reduced to a few “mean” messages from a high school hater. It can
be considered a criminal offense in numerous states and may take several forms, including:
- Online harassment: Sending abusive or threatening messages, posting embarrassing or humiliating content.
- Impersonation: Creating fake accounts or hacking a child or teen's account to harass or deceive.
- Surveillance: Tracking a child’s online activity or location.
- Threats of harm: Direct or indirect threats of violence.
“About 81% of youths think cyberbullying is not a big deal and protected behind a digital device. (They) may believe they are anonymous to the point that they fail to consider the implication of their actions,” said Masawi.
While cyberbullying laws differ by state, most acknowledge harassment through computers, phones or texts; messages that cause fear or embarrassment; threats sent electronically; and/or explicit photos intended to harm someone as unlawful. “Sexting” is often included in these laws and is illegal in some places.
To learn more about your state’s cyberbullying laws and legislation, visit StopBullying.gov or
Cyberbullying Research Center’s website or contact your local law enforcement authorities.
But it’s not just important for parents to educate themselves about cyberbullying. Open and ongoing
communication about healthy relationships and responsible social media use can substantially mitigate
risk. “It’s important for Army parents to create a safe space for their child to open up to them. Listen more than you speak and be aware of any reactions that might make them feel judged or afraid to share their experiences. Hearing their perspective is essential to understanding their unique situation and being able to help,” said Leanne Lemons, DCS, G-9, FAP Specialist.
The Family Advocacy Program office provides support services to assist teens facing cyberbullying and equips them with tools to foster respectful relationships. Additionally, various resources are available to help guide Families through related challenges.
“It is imperative to take cyberbullying seriously,” stated Lemons. She also explained that parents may underestimate the effects of cyberbullying and may see it as less harmful than traditional bullying because it happens online. In fact, cyberbullying can lead to noticeable changes in behavior and self- esteem in children and teens. If a parent suspects that their child has been cyberbullied, they should take the following steps:
- Notice: Parents should pay attention to any changes in their child’s mood or behavior, particularly in
relation to their use of digital devices.
- Talk: They should ask their child questions to understand what is happening, how it started and who is involved.
- Document: Parents should keep a record of the incidents. They should take screenshots of harmful content, while ensuring they do not share it with anyone other than law enforcement. Maintaining these records can help demonstrate the bullying is a pattern.
- Report: Parents should follow the reporting procedures of social media platforms and their child’s school. Additionally, they should contact local law enforcement if there are physical threats or illegal activities involved.
- Support: Use Army resources like the Family Advocacy Program and Military OneSource, which offer confidential counseling and support services for Families.
In conclusion, Army parents can empower their children with the resources they need to confidently and safely explore the digital landscape. This approach not only addresses strategies for reducing the likelihood of cyberbullying but also fosters a sense of trust within Families that is needed to build stronger communities.
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