School for Command Prep Spouse Program Offers Tools for Future Spouse Advisors

By Scott GibsonOctober 19, 2020

School for Command Preparation - Spouse Program
1 / 3 Show Caption + Hide Caption – A future Brigade Commander and his spouse take part in a lunchtime elective discussion on the role of the chaplain on Oct. 16 as part of the School for Command Preparation course and the School for Command Preparation – Spouse Course. The course gives future command teams the opportunity to learn some of the expectations and tools they will need to be successful commanders, command sergeants major, and spouse advisors. (Photo Credit: Scott Gibson) VIEW ORIGINAL
Brigade Command Spouse Seminar
2 / 3 Show Caption + Hide Caption – Future Command Team Spouses, Karla Medina and Sarah Bryant discuss communication skills and strategies during the Brigade Spouse Seminar of the School for Command Preparation – Spouse Program at the Fort Leavenworth Lewis and Clark Center Oct. 14. (Photo Credit: Scott Gibson) VIEW ORIGINAL
Battalion Command Spouse Seminar
3 / 3 Show Caption + Hide Caption – Heidi Paquette, David Harden, and Crystal Jones participate in a small group discussion on the inclusion process when forming a new group as part of the battalion-level School for Command Preparation - Spouse Program. The Spouse Course, which coincides with the Battalion and Brigade Pre-Command Course, provides command teams with the awareness and skills needed to contribute to a positive environment of family, unit, and community. (Photo Credit: Scott Gibson) VIEW ORIGINAL

After a hiatus of several months due to the COVID pandemic, the Combined Arms Center and Army University’s Pre-Command Course is once again focusing on the in-person training of future brigade and battalion command teams. While most people will equate that to mean commanders and command sergeants major, it also includes a program that focuses on another important member of that team -- the command team spouse.

The School for Command Preparation – Spouse Program at Fort Leavenworth returned to in-class facilitation on October 13, providing the spouses of future commanders and command sergeants major, at both the battalion and brigade level, with the awareness and skills needed to contribute to a positive environment of family, unit and community.

“The Army recognizes that the many aspects of Army life are improved and directly due to spouse leadership and involvement,” said Combined Arms Center Commanding General Lt. Gen. James Rainey in a welcome letter to the 30 class participants. “The course offers a unique opportunity to develop skills and gain information that will not only ease your transition into your new role, but will provide you with tools that can help you throughout all aspects of your life.”

In addition to a myriad of communication and leadership topics, the students are given access to many senior Army leaders and senior Army spouses, including the spouse of the chief of staff of the Army, Mrs. Maria McConville; and the spouse of the TRADOC Commander, Dr. Beth Funk. Besides providing briefings and information, the senior leaders and spouses also wanted feedback from the participants to help provide solutions to problems that Army families face. In addition to senior leader briefings and discussions, students also had senior spouse mentors, in the classroom including Tracy Rainey, the wife of the Combined Arms Center and Fort Leavenworth commander to ask questions and gain insight from.

Concerning Soldier and Family Readiness Group (SFRG) participation, Dr. Funk, who spoke to the group by VTC, urged the participants to foster a team atmosphere where diversity of thought and action are valued and people’s strengths are developed. “Don’t worry about filling someone else’s shoes,” Dr. Funk told the spouses. “Wear your own shoes.”

According to several students and facilitators alike, perhaps some of the most valuable dialogue from the class happens after the students depart the classroom for the day.

Tasha Pingel, the wife of a Brigade CSM Spouse heading to 2nd Cavalry Regiment in Vilseck. Germany, described a scenario in the classroom that sparked a conversation beyond the classroom regarding a military spouse who approached their SGRG leader with a concern that their service member may be showing signs of PTSD.

“I asked my husband ‘how would you approach that as the Sergeant Major, and how should I approach that as a spouse?’ …we all know that the Army right now has had some serious suicide rates and that’s a huge thing in the military, and that is one of the things that hits home for me,” Pingel said. “I want to know how to address this with my spouses as the brigade senior enlisted spouse, so we discussed that, including resources that we would provide and how we would handle such situations.”

PCC-SC is taught at the graduate level and is on par with leadership training provided by major universities and corporations. In fact, the brigade spouse seminar is taught by expert facilitators from Kansas State University who also happen to be the wives of former Battalion and Brigade commanders.

Margie Banach, a professional executive coach and one of the Kansas State University facilitators supporting the program, explained that a major key to success of the week-long class, is the diversity of the class participants.

“They come with a myriad of experiences and professional backgrounds and they are sharing that with each other, Banach said. “It is taught at the graduate level and it is a scaffold -- one thought or one subject matter builds upon the others throughout the week. They have connected with other spouses that are like-minded and so they have learned in class but they have also developed those relationships that they will take with them moving forward.”

Brigade Command Spouses Seminar
Margie Banach leads a seminar discussion on Social Management and Self Awareness as part of the Brigade Spouse Seminar of the School for Command Preparation – Spouse Program at the Fort Leavenworth Lewis and Clark Center Oct. 14. (Photo Credit: Scott Gibson) VIEW ORIGINAL

Tasha Pingel agrees that the level of the program is on par with some of the best leadership programs offered.

”I have taken a couple of communication and management courses, and the things that I am learning here are very similar,” Pingel said.  “You know people pay beaucoup bucks to send their employees to a seminar such as this. I’m very impressed by the education that we are learning, the different topics, the coverage… I can’t believe that we are getting this essentially for free as spouses, this is great!”

Lindsay Teplesky, the spouse of the future commander of the 4th Squadron, 10th Cavalry Regiment, believes that the networking opportunities and resources gained at the SCP-SC will pay big dividends as she and her husband take on their new roles as members of a command team.

“I love having resources, knowing what the resources are,” Teplesky said.  “I love having a network of people I can call on, and leaving the Pentagon and going to Fort Carson I don’t know everybody that is going to be in the same position with their spouse in command in Colorado, so by coming here I am meeting in my class eight other spouses who are in the same position and same boat and will be facing the same new experiences and challenges, so it is great to meet people that I can connect with and continue to talk to over the next several months as we get ready to embark on the next position.”

Lauren Bolen, a facilitator for the Battalion Spouses Program who has also been both a battalion and brigade level spouse emphasized that while she hopes that the members of her class will choose to take on an advisory role, even if they don’t the insights they gain will have a positive impact on their lives moving into a command team role and beyond.

“The information you learn here is going to help you, it can help you in your job, it can help you in other volunteer capacities and it’s going to enhance your life no matter what group you are a part of,” Bolen said. “I just hope that they [future command team spouses] will choose to come… Even if you’ve volunteered extensively and have leadership experience, this is my guarantee -- you will learn something.”

Battalion Commander's Spouse Seminar
Lauren Bolen facilitates a discussion on some of the expectations of the Battalion and Brigade commander’s spouse during the Battalion Spouse Seminar of the School for Command Preparation – Spouse Program at the Fort Leavenworth Lewis and Clark Center Oct. 15. (Photo Credit: Scott Gibson) VIEW ORIGINAL