By Lance D. Davis, U.S. Army Garrison Japan Public AffairsSeptember 7, 2016
CAMP ZAMA, Japan (Sept, 7, 2016) - The U.S. Army Garrison Japan Religious Support Office hosted a married couple's seminar called "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage" Sept. 2-3 at the Camp Zama Community Club.
The seminar focused on providing couples with relationship dynamics and practical solutions for relationship challenges.
"The point is to learn how to work through your marriage and appreciate the good aspects of it - but also deal with some of the more difficult aspects of it," said Chaplain (Lt. Col.) Thomas McCort, chaplain of USAG Japan.
Participants watched the seminar via DVD, produced by Mark Gungor, marriage and family speaker and author of the book "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage."
His seminar included three parts: "The Tale of Two Brains," "The #1 Key to Incredible Sex," and "How to Stay Married and Not Kill Anybody."
During the first day, in "The Tale of Two Brains," Gungor explained what he calls "the laws of relational physics" - how men and women are wired differently and why.
"It was excellent for him to show that men and women think completely differently," said Brandi Flaggs, community member who has been married to her husband Daryl for almost a year. "Sometimes we're frustrated thinking: 'why doesn't he get it?' or 'or why doesn't she get it?'"
"The example that was given is that you don't want your spouse to think like you - we're not supposed to; we are two different people," said Flaggs.
"If you get that, you can pretty much get through anything."
On the next day, in "The #1 Key to Incredible Sex," Gungor explained that sex is for marriage and having sex before marriage can bring challenges into a marriage. He went on to say when spouses are connected spiritually and emotionally that is what makes it incredible.
The second day's final topic was "How to Stay Married and Not Kill Anybody." Gungor emphasized the importance of forgiveness in marriage and characterized it as "the reset button."
Michelle Garnett, Family Member, said the seminar reminded her of a time in her marriage when she and her husband had grown apart as a result of neglecting one another and putting more attention into their children and careers.
She said she and her husband started to work against each other, but their commitment to one another allowed them to forgive and work together after 15 years of marriage and still counting.
"Marriage is work, and sometimes it's hard work," said Chaplain (Capt.) Daniel Garnett, chaplain for 441st Military Intelligence Battalion.
"But it's worth fighting for," he said.
The seminar concluded with lunch followed by date night, which included child care for couples who needed it courtesy of the RSO.